Hey, it’s another Fabulous Friday. It is really. Please excuse the seemingly self-righteous soapbox upon which I stand. It’s not. I’m just as insecure as you are. I realize the two psych classes I had in college don’t make me Dr. Phil or even Dear Abby. However, I have some friends that are going through some tough times. This is for them. Read at your own risk
1) Do not let your relationship or current lack of one define your sense of self-worth.
2) We all fail at things, but we are not failures. Failing is part of life--everyone’s life, not just yours. Trite but true, we really do learn from our mistakes.
3) Do not define your successes on the successes of others—be it marriage, business savvy, weight loss, accolades, whatever. We’re all unique. And all those other people out there do not lead perfect lives. Stop comparing yourself and your talents to others. You never know what someone else is dealing with. I wouldn’t say everyone else is a fraud. They’re just putting smiles on their faces and muddling through like the rest of us. We ALL go through crap.
4) Don’t dwell on what’s wrong. Dwell on what’s right.
5) Look around you. Look at all the things you have created. Whether it is a child, an exquisitely decorated home, a nice little corner vignette in your living room, a piece of art from deep within, a to-die-for meal, a poem for a friend, a great photo, or a cozy nurturing environment for your pet. You’ve created something beautiful and you’re awesome. Now, go make a list of all the great things you’ve done to prove my point. Post that on your mirror. Read it and believe it every day.
6) This stuff is only temporary. Times are tough. Seek help, get another job, suck it up. Put on life’s rubber boots and wade through this crap. This is only temporary. Tons of people have lost their homes and livelihoods. Do you judge them, or are you understanding? If a friend judges you, then “de-friend” them for awhile. There is no room in your life right now for “friends” like that. People have way more respect for someone that does what needs to be done, than for someone that timidly lets things fall apart for fear of what other people will think. Secondly, if it’s a stranger that judges you, who cares? It will pass. Really.
I’m stepping down now. I feel so blessed to have the imperfect life I have. I love my friends and am here for you. Call me and have a Fabulous Friday.
1) Do not let your relationship or current lack of one define your sense of self-worth.
2) We all fail at things, but we are not failures. Failing is part of life--everyone’s life, not just yours. Trite but true, we really do learn from our mistakes.
3) Do not define your successes on the successes of others—be it marriage, business savvy, weight loss, accolades, whatever. We’re all unique. And all those other people out there do not lead perfect lives. Stop comparing yourself and your talents to others. You never know what someone else is dealing with. I wouldn’t say everyone else is a fraud. They’re just putting smiles on their faces and muddling through like the rest of us. We ALL go through crap.
4) Don’t dwell on what’s wrong. Dwell on what’s right.
5) Look around you. Look at all the things you have created. Whether it is a child, an exquisitely decorated home, a nice little corner vignette in your living room, a piece of art from deep within, a to-die-for meal, a poem for a friend, a great photo, or a cozy nurturing environment for your pet. You’ve created something beautiful and you’re awesome. Now, go make a list of all the great things you’ve done to prove my point. Post that on your mirror. Read it and believe it every day.
6) This stuff is only temporary. Times are tough. Seek help, get another job, suck it up. Put on life’s rubber boots and wade through this crap. This is only temporary. Tons of people have lost their homes and livelihoods. Do you judge them, or are you understanding? If a friend judges you, then “de-friend” them for awhile. There is no room in your life right now for “friends” like that. People have way more respect for someone that does what needs to be done, than for someone that timidly lets things fall apart for fear of what other people will think. Secondly, if it’s a stranger that judges you, who cares? It will pass. Really.
I’m stepping down now. I feel so blessed to have the imperfect life I have. I love my friends and am here for you. Call me and have a Fabulous Friday.
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